Rain makers

People who are honestly happy, are happy when your happy. People who are not happy do not seem to want others happy either. Make certain that those you spend time with are happy, and honestly so. Fake smiles can not hide discouraging words. Negativity is like the flu. Do not let yourself catch it. Surround yourself in sunlight, and you shall never know darkness. Surround yourself in darkness, and you shall never know the beauty of the world. Or in life. Know who around you is a smile MAKER or a smile TAKER.
I have seen people have their lives thrown completely off track, simply due to a friend or family member who was feeding them darkness they were unable to sense. Like a rain dance, every time that friend was around the once sunny skies in their lives were filled with storms and saddness. Breeding suspicion, drama, mistrust, loss of faith or hope simply do to a source the person could not see for themselves. Semms these types are great at hiding in our BLIND SPOT.
One our hearts create, out of our feelings for the person. You can not see darkness in a blind spot. Years I wasted of my life from this. So many people, negative darkness bringers, hid in that spot. It spun my life out of control and ruined many years of life. But they say, if you learned something from it, its not wasted. And I have.
Watch out for the company you keep. Friends, family, I don't care. If it "offends you" cut it off. If you had a finger, that had a severe infection, one you could not stop, cut if off to save the rest of you. This means if you have someone you can not save from unhappiness or negativity, let them go.
Do not crash and burn your life trying to save them. Ever see the movie WHAT DREAMS MAY COME? Well, they warned him, do to the extreme sadness of her case, that usually her types brought his types to thier "reality" rather than being saved. Now, he was barely able to bring her out, but it was a one in a billions sort of thing. Also it was a movie. The truth to be taken from it though, and even spoken in the bible, is undeniable. You must not risk your life, heart, soul, personality or happiness on someone who will bring you down. Everyone wants to think their case is the Robbin Williams one. They can do it. And I'm not saying no one ever should help anyone. But help if your helping, nothing more. Achieve the understanding that your postition should be that of a mentor, a counseler, not a companion. Do not open your mind up to them, or the poison, virus, the darkness could seep in. Always seek out the sunlight.
Always see the beauty, the blessings. Do this alone. Do not need others to help you, or you are not truly seeing anything. Its theirs, not yours. Be happy alone, before you are happy together. Be strong alone, form opinions alone, be yourself alone. Who you are alone, is who you are. So if your unhappy alone, and happy with others. Take time for yourself to seek out your own happiness so you will not taint the happiness of others, so you are not the leech. So you will not become their darkness.
Also, so you know true happiness. Contentment. Understand that happiness is uniquely experienced by each. Do not expect certain events to trigger it, or specific reactions from it. Do not try to buy it or find it under a rug, book cover or therapy session. Do not expect to much of it. And once you find a small amount, cling to the feeling, not the cause. You have the power in you to recreate that feeling. Once you find yourself happy, watch out for times you notice your not. Examine who is there, what is said. Do not always expect the answer to be obvious or easy. It might take some digging. But once you find your true poison, cut it out.
Now for married folks....NO. Divorce is never the first option. Do not be one of those kinds of people. Great things take great work. Try counseling. Try what you can, then try some more. If you feel you have no other coice, then I guess go for it. And single ppl, do NOT just jump into marriage! Its not a game. Its not a silly paper, or ceremony. Its not playing house, or a test drive. Take it seriously.
Take life seriously. but love it, and bask in its beauty. Ban clouds from your sky. You need that light, your soul needs that light. And you must have it first if you are to spread it to others.

Avergage Joe Sucks

Mr. Wrongs are everywhere....

Here is a blog for you single and looking girls out there. There are plenty of fish in the sea they say, but unfortunately a lot of those fish are losers. Harsh? But true. In your own particular contest for MR. RIGHT, most of the guys fall short. Now to be fair, a lot of girls add a few to many things to the "must be" list that don't or should not matter in a desire to impress the world or meet day dreams they have had or books they read, or movies they see. But, it is true that even through the seemingly "nice" guys, there are far too many no-nos. So girls, to have a hottie or desirable man, will date a lot of bad eggs and jerks. Or just bad fits. Convincing themselves that all men suck. While I would say I agree with that, there is some male sided explanation needed before I continue on the "most men suck" road.

Men are affected by those around them. VERY STRONGLY. They are affected by what they see, and learn. How they were brought up, who befriended them growing up, who they idolized, etc. All make up the man you meet. Men, more than women, seem to be a product of their environment. A fictional example, look at batman. His early childhood greatly affected his whole life. Or think of men going to Vegas (whose slogan is "what happens here stays here") If one snorts cocaine off a drunken hooker the rest are likely to join in. (Sort of kidding with the last example...sort of)

Women as teenagers are not much different. But it stops there. After collage we are a lot less likely to be SO easily affected. Not completely without though. There are the clucking hen friends that always advise "He is probably cheating on you" or "leave his butt", or "screw what he thinks!" or "He doesn't seem to care about what you want" or the classic "If it was me...". 

Quick advice, never listen to outside advise on your relationship. Unless it's a professional!

Anyway. MEN. Bad men signs. Let's do this.

1. Eateries. Places one eats. Never pick up a guy from Hooters anything similar. This is surely a sign that not only will this continue through your relationship, but that said man has eyeball mind control issues. Not exactly a sign of class. 

These girls flirt for tips or get fired. Just remember that. They are used to married men hitting on them, probably more than single guys, so it won't mean much to them. 

2. Strip clubs. No not all men go to strip clubs. There is a very rare breed of men that have higher moral standards, or at least when in a relationship. If can grab one who has never been, it's like a lottery win. Rare and lucky! 

Some men don't just see the skin, but the lack of opportunity to get that skin, the sex diseases surely running rampid, or just plain find being horney in public (surrounded by other horney men everywhere around you) bothering. If they ever met or knew one, they know how truly unhappy the girls are. How they have to live in denial or drugging themselves to handle their jobs. Though there are a few just born to skank. That want attention any way they can get it, that have a need to have men drool over them and use them. But most are circling a drain funded by the patrons. And rarely single, or in happy relationships. 

3. Porn. Porn is bad, mmmkay? It is not a healthy practice for any relationship. Not even for the women. (Nor are women not having sex with their men for the love of their sex toys) You should keep love beautiful, magical and pure. Make love, not f***. That's crude and nasty. Love can be crazy, but there is emotions of love mixed in the acts, vs just "I want to get mine". 

There are two kinds of women I will discuss with porn. One "I don't care" and the other "heck no". The careless ones often are either insecure and not wanting dude to run off from upsetting him, trying to be cool women, or they themselves porn hounds and want the right. None of which are good in the long run. 

The "NO!" ones? Let us see if we can break down why they might not like this. True, there are some insecure girls in this group too. But some just think "Eew". Also the godly girls who are aware bible says "no" to this also. 

Porn takes your mate out of the picture, while you are having an "almost sex" experience with another "person". (Who ever, whatever, you are watching) It also, not classy. Very skanky. It makes the "love" you make with your spouse mean less. It means images of naked people are in your mind always. It means your person is not satisfying you and instead of finding a together fix it solution you are ignoring the problem by "getting yours" without them. Most spouses are willing if in love and notified correctly , to be your fantasy. Or beyond. To work with you to almost boundless ends. Got to stop thinking "me" and start thinking "we")

There are men who give up all this when they meet their dream girl. 

4. Mama's boys. Oh yes. To the moms out there, you might get defensive. But be aware, this term is not just for every boy who loves his mom, but to the ones who take it too far. 

This refers to men who will dash out on plans to meet mommy for tea, or who stop dating a girl cause mommy said no. Men who remember there moms birthday but forget your anniversary, or who go on kinda creepy mom dates with mommy. Feet rubbing, face kissing, flower giving, hand holding, mamas boys. 

Women are nurturing guys. Even the bitchy ones deep down. It's just in our DNA. We want to take care of our men, and later our family we build with that guy. We do not want to compete with a mother who is so desperate for male attention she tries to drive away any chick from her "baby boy" who is playing the part her husband is not. (Or lack of). We do not need to be criticized, picked on, bossed around, watched, gossiped about, or to try to pry you off mommies lap long enough to say "hi!". We want a MAN. A GROWN MAN! Not a big baby stuck sucking on mommy's tit. Women will avoid these types of guys. 

Bible :

But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

(Mark 10:6-9 ESV)

5. Words. A classy girl will not tolerate well a man who uses foul language. 

Its trashy, uncooth, and vulgar. Its one thing to make a point, or to tell a quick bad joke, or if you're in a fury, or in pain. But to throw them in like its increasing your penis size each word, no. Not good. In fact any stupid act men do to try to hard to be more manly puts off a signal to smart classy girls "compensating?" Real men just are great, they do not have to pretend to be, or do dumb things to put up a front of big peepees. They just exude confidence and are themselves. 

5. Bad friends. Bad friends are almost equal to Mamas boy. If I guy mimics his friends or has similarities to them, and surrounds himself with pricks, then it does not look good for the future. These guys will affect his opinion, clothing, actions, etc. And to an onlooking chick this is bad news. In fact, bad friends mixed with one nice guy friend can mean your chick will leave you for him. Women think they want one thing, but after they get enough of that they wake up and want another.

"You can't make the right decisions 'til you tried all the wrong ones?" Sweet home Alabama. 

Actually, this is fairly true for some women. But once we have our epiphany, there is no changing our minds. 

6. Bad manners. Yes manners still matter. Do we expect you to act as fabulously as the men in our chick flick movies from the 15,16, 17, 18 hundreds? No. That's one of those dreams girls have like winning  an endless lottery, her foe magically getting fat and ugly, her evil boss getting fired in a super embarrassing fashion and her getting promoted, or finding a genie with no wish limit. 

No matter how feminist a girl is, she does not want to be treated LITERALLY like one of the boys. Unless she has serious emotional or mental issues. Women may fight it, but we like chivalry. We don't want it to die. Some unhappily married or miserably lonely bitch complained and started a revolution like war against it one day, and it's been fading out ever since. The rest of us chicks, meanwhile, pond our fists at the air and cry out "Why???". We want it. We would have to get used to it, be aware, if we have never had it though. It can be shocking. 

Even something as simple as door openings, like my hubby does, or carrying heavy things. Whatever. MANNERS AND CHIERLY. Bless me when I sneeze or suffer. That is my motto. I have a HUGE pet peeve with that. 

Now we are aware some men were not taught right, they don't know manners. Learn some basics or tell us, we can help! Be warned, some chicks could try to take this to far, address that early. 

Please don't lugee or belch in front of us. In time a fart might pass with laughs that is one thing, but blatant disregard for manners is a bad sign. 

7. Lying. Withholding, disguising, falsifying the truth all bad. Be honest. Women like honesty! Open and honest. There is always a way to tell the truth that will be ok. Even if its a dress that looks awful. You will get in trouble, but do it sweetly as possible and it will be less. In the long run, we want the truth. And lies get you in way more. YOU SHOULD NEVER BE OK LYING TO YOUR GIRL.

Really no need to further explain that. It's sort of grade school stuff.

8. Kids, for the kids loving or wanting ladies. Can be ok, for the kids not wanting (me) ladies...bad. Also, kids from to many mothers, not a good sign. That's a lot of "it didn't work out" to take in. 

Wanting or not wanting can be a deal breaker or maker with women. This varies with each lady. I personally do not like kids. But still, no woman (well, most) would never date a guy who would hurt kids in any way. If you treat kids badly, it does not say much about you as a person. Also its a good sign you won't treat her right either! 

Which brings us to....

9. Temper. Short and sweet... No black or white. No wimping out completely, but no wife beating kill the infidel kinda temper either. We want a man who is passionate, so a temper is a given. You can't have passion without including ALL moods. But, hitting children, beating animals, or attacking your woman is never ok behavior. Also, we do not want to have to be scared that anytime someone in traffic cuts you off, you're doing to chase him down and attack. We don't want a criminal.

10.  Criminal records. This should be self explanatory. If anyone actually needs this explained to them, they deserve to date the bad boy rejects they end up with. A traffic ticket here or there is one thing, jail time for selling drugs is another. 

11. A womanizer. Overly flirtatious. The FLIRT thing can be bad for a guy or girl. AKA "playa/player". They keep playing the field in a subtle way despite being in a relationship, then dismiss it as nothing to worry about. A good man (or girl) will not flirt, out of respect. Respect is a big key word here I think could handle a lot of these at once. 

12. Mr. Show off. Trophy guy. Winner winner steak dinner. The guy who has to have sports cars, constantly talk about his fabulousness, intelligence, sexual skill, weener, house, job, etc. The guy who enjoys winning at poker, working out, talking about the bad a88 things he does, etc. Despite the more obvious reasons men typically do this (ehm), this is a bad sign for a smart girl. This guy is first off, very self absorbed. Second, he cares TOO MUCH what others think of him or he would not be bending over backwards to rub their faces in it. This means if gal gets fat and preggers, or cancer, mr "wonderful" would be out the door. If you age badly or even if he just gets sick of you, he will prob cheat. Possibly not ever marry either. He might avoid it for fear of those things. 

13. Bar fly. Skipping the bar fly-etts reason. Lets go to the heart of the problems. Drinking. It will be what he goes to for every issue you have. It will be his answer to his problems. This goes to any vice like this. You do not want to marry a drunk. An alcoholic. There should be no good reason to have to explain that.

14. The young forever college rules retard. If a guy is in his mid-late twenties and acts like a high schooler still, be worried. Its one thing to enjoy video games or cartoons, it's another to still be as immature as a high school boy. Period. You can be childlike and mature at the same time. But immature is something that takes over. You can't be a man and immature.

15. The hater. The control freak. Or the overly strict. 

All in one category. The "too far" guys. 

Guys that get all overly controlling of what you can do (says the girl whose husband won't let her cut or color her hair, lol, but he really for the most part lets me do what I want to) will be a definite problem in the long run. Likely driving you to drink, cheat, leave or want to die. This one includes the crazy suspicious jealous freaks. 

Guys that are bigots or haters are a huge issue too. You should never get in a relationship with someone who has hate in their heart towards a people or group that in a whole has done nothing to him. 

Overly strict guys are begging to have wives arguing or rebelling. Unless they are lucky to find that meek mild doormat wife. But she is destined to suffer inside, misery forever. These guys fall in with control freak, but often have a backing. Religion, politics, something. Beware. 

They equal down, at their core to anger, unresolved issues and hate. 

Think about Jesus. Try to get as close to him in a man as possible and you can not go wrong. He was a caring, loving forgiving, wise calm respectful person who stood against the masses. Against the grain. 

ADVICE TIME: personality, thats the important part. Its so hard to get all that right in one guy that matches what you want, that you might should lay easy on the more shallow desires. ;) Who knows once you "let go", you could get it all! 

Chick-Fil-A(holes) - The Conclusion Of the Exclusion

This should be a  "fun" post. (Not)

I think clarification is needed. I do not think people are quite clear on each others side.

-One side is on the religious kick. "Bible says" sort of deal. Read the bible, it lists lots of sins. And in their mind apparently gay is a big important one to fight. 

-One side is on the freedom of speech kick. First amendment thing. It is important to protect our rights.

-Another is hurt by the words said by a company that just publicly called them bad, wrong, and basically indirectly condemning them

-Lastly, there is a side upset not only by the hurtful words, but more so in learning that everything they bought, was funding causes they do not support. That earlier the company had been noted to say that they did not have anything against anyone, then come out with "ok, yeah we do. Oh and we fund it...with your money".

Realizing of course they can do what they want with their profits, but its the hurtfulness that bothers me most. And the feeling of betrayal in the funding organization that promote exclusion and not inclusion.

I side with Muppets.

I don't like the idea of hurting peoples feelings. I know of LOTS OF PARTS of the bible people break, this seems like nit picking at one thing in particular. Pointing out only these peoples thing, but not the make up, jewelry, short skirts, eating pig and shellfish, hair cutting, divorces, molestation, stealing, cursing, smoking, cheating, lying, etc. Everyone sins. Thats why god had to send Jesus, he knew we all couldn't NOT sin. Even those who think that they don't are sinning. EVERYONE DOES. 

Also, though I agree with the freedom of speech thing, I think ppl are going out of their way to use that considering if this had been applied in another scenario, say child molestation. "We like naked 10 year old girls. We send millions of your dollars to support NAMBLA (North American Man Boy Love Assc) in hopes to one day be able to have sex with children legally"

People would have a COW. 

Ehm, bad joke???

There is another side. The miscellaneous side of people not for either. Not choosing. I have a friend on this side who posted a great status...

"OK, so a whole bunch of people went to the chicken joint and stood up for their beliefs regarding marriage. That's all fine and good, but I ask you this... Was a single lost soul brought to know Christ in all of this? When did it become "us vs them" instead of "us FOR them?" Jesus didn't call us to be his morality police force, He called us to be shepherds of lost and hurting souls. 

To quote a good friends blog: "maybe we should be more concerned about standing “with” Jesus versus being concerned about standing “up” for Him."

Think of what we could accomplish if we banded together like that for something like child hunger, homelessness, slavery, child exploitation, or any number of REAL tragedies in this world. Think of how many could be saved if we made THAT our rally point. Just my thoughts and opinion on the whole "situation." 

Matthew 22:37-40 "37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy NEIGHBOUR as thyself. 40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets." - Denny Ray Hahn

I do agree. I do not like fighting with people. But I'm pretty strong feeling against hurting peoples feelings. 

Yes, I make random jokes towards people that can seem rough. But, being that I have one arm and never felt quite like I fit in with people, I strived to be "careless" and open and outgoing to work past the awkwardness of not ever really fitting in. Not even that well with others people consider like you simple cause they were born funny too. It sucks to feel like its the world vs you. I would never wish that on anyone.

Christians make up a HUGE % of America. 

"The majority of Americans (76% to 80%) identify themselves as Protestants or Catholics, accounting for 51% and 25% of the population respectively, according to one survey by Trinity College.^[4] Other religions including Judaism, Buddhism, Islam, Hindu collectively make up about 5% of the adult population.^[4][5][6] Another 15% of the adult population claim no religious affiliation.^[4] When asked, about 5.2% said they did not know, or refused to reply.^[4] According to the American Religious Identification Survey, religious belief varies considerably by region. The lowest rate is in the West with 59% reporting a belief in God, and the highest rate in the South at 86%.^[4][7]"

So that makes the others the underdogs in this fight.

(CNSNews.com) –While a recent Gallup poll showed that U.S. adults, on average, think homosexuals make up about 25 percent of the entire population, official data  reveal that gays and lesbians comprise between 2 percent and 4 percent of the population.

In a May 5-8 telephone survey, Gallup asked more than 1,000 U.S. adults in all 50 states: “Just your best guess, what percent of Americans today would you say are gay or lesbian?”

The adults polled estimated that 25 percent – one quarter of all Americans – are gay or lesbian.

According to Gallup, over half of Americans (52 percent) said that at least one in five Americans is homosexual, and 35 percent estimated more than one in four. Only 30 percent estimated under 15 percent.

However, official estimates of the homosexual population range from 2 to 4 percent – well under the 25 percent “guesstimate.”

I'm inclined to sit on that side of the table. I'll take them over bigotry. Which is all it is to me. Siding with bigots. I don't buy the free speech thing. Though most now would argue to "stick to their guns" now that they picked, I still think that if this was about something much more shocking that he said "I like chopping up women" or "we are secretly funding the antichrist" that people would not care about "freedom of speech". 

It's a double edged sword that right.  

Not to say rights are bad. Its just like when you say "Freedom of religion", and then people get into voodoo, satanisim, and other various cults and racists or violent religions. Then they are protected too. So are there PRACTICES.  We love our system, our FREEDOMS, but so does bad, so does evil. Not saying it should change, I'm just saying this complicates things. Makes them less here or there, black or white, cold or hot. Makes for more gray area. 

(We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.)

It's also not the only issue. As I stated, I was more "lost" to the chick side after reading they use the profits to fund homo hating companies. Funding hate = bad. Those funds could be sheltering homeless, feeding children, building jobs, assisting with healthcare to those in need, SAVING ANIMALS, helping the environment, etc. Even spreading gods word NICELY in other countries.
Its tainted hate money, instead of help money. 

Besides, its just fast food. It's not like I'm giving up breathing, just junk food. 

(INTERESTING READ CLICK HERE)

However, I will make my attempts to avoid anything within my power to do so that does something I really do not agree with. All I got were milkshakes, I can get those somewhere else. 

Anyway, I think that America is ready to move past this. Both sides got something out of this. Chick-fil-a ppl made their point, The equality side made it's.  As the title of the link above says... "Now, let's move on to a bigger problem". Lets fight something WORTH FIGHTING. Let's fix something WORTH FIXING. 

I know that there will be others rolling their eyes at me for posting this. I know crowns will be made, feathers will be ruffled. I am not trying to do that. Just thought some clarification was in order. It's always good to see all sides. I totally SEE the FREEDOM OF SPEECH SIDE, I understand everything on the CHRISTIANS SIDE, and I adore the STOP FIGHTING side. I get all of them. I have no beef with anyone who RIGHTLY picked their side for a GOOD reason. (i.e - not hate filled). This is my side.

The Muppet side.

There will be no more posting on this. I KNOW everyone is tired of this, drained, and no one really wants to fight each other. (Except maybe feminists) So let there be light. Let there be peace. Let there be love.

Next blog will be a happy one. Happy wife/life part 2 coming soon. Then maybe another complex one. Supernatural, conspiracy, theories..... Fun stuff.