Let people be who they are

People like to size up a person by the way that they look or act. For example, I have even seen TV shows mention this, a person who is disabled in some way is immediately considered a good person. Disabled people do not do things wrong they think. I can tell you that's a lie. All my teachers in school learned that.

Sure, some people decide to stick to the stereotypes. It's their prerogative. But never assume that any person, no matter what they look or sound like, is any 1 specific way.

Take me for example. People who don't know me very well would see somebody who was relatively white has one arm and lives in the suburbs. They would probably assume that I do not know very much about life, that I am Republican, and a very nice person. And they would be wrong. I am a mixture of almost all races, I am only missing half an arm it does not affect me being good or bad, and though I live in the suburbs I have also been on the streets before 2. I know how that goes. Also I am NOT Republican or Democrat. Personally I hate the government and thank people are stupid for fighting on one side of the other instead of against the government completely. Team red team blue ...both suck.

Point is you don't know a person from a min or two of sizing them up. Well ...most do not. I have met people who are capable of doing that pretty well. But it is a very rare gift that most people do not have. Although I am sure more people think they have it then actually do. Trust me when I say most people are not capable of doing that. So it is best to assume that you do not know that person and give them the chance to be the person who they really are.

Let them tell you who they are.

Whats a "Wife"? RANT BLOG

I'm Elena. I'm married to Jacob. I love and adore him. SO WHAT?

Is it anyone else's business HOW, WHY, WHEN OR WHAT? Nope. NO ONE can tell me how to run my marriage. If I want to spoil the snot out of my adorable loving husband (to what can occasionally be precieved from outsiders as "overboard") THAT IS MY BUSINESS.

Do I think I do TOO MUCH? No I do not. I honestly could do even better. 

Is there ANYTHING wrong with wanting to be THE DREAM WIFE? Why am I crazy for wanting to please my loving husband? Why does it bug people so much that I spoil him? He is not a pig, a monster. He is not taking advantage of me. 

If I wanted to sit on my butt and groan about my life and be a B he would not care. Though, I'm sure he did not fall in love with me for my negative side. He does not ask things of me that I have not been offering on him. I choose to do this. I could tell him I want to work and him to take my place. He prob would. But I like the idea of being THE PERFECT WIFE. Of him having better bragging rights other than just "my wife can cook" or "We get along" or "Shes pretty".Why can't it be all the great things?

I have issues with people finding out to what extent I spoil him and judging me. Even some thinking I'm a bad person for it. I say SCREW YOU... MY MARRIAGE MY BUSINESS! NOT YOURS! 

LOOK - as long as I'm not breaking any laws or hurting people, WHY DO YOU CARE WHAT I DO IN MY OWN LIFE? STOP BEING SO NOSEY, GET YOUR OWN LIFE. 

LEAVE US ALONE TO RUN OURS HOW WE SEE FIT. And if that includes spoiling my husband.... SO BE IT! He is mine after all, I married him. So i'll do what I want with my things.

yes I said mine. I own him, he owns me, we have a signed agreement to that effect. 

its so frustrating that others gotta try to piss on my mood with complaining.

 No matter what ppl say. I'll continue supporting, loving, adoring and spoiling my husband. Thats my job, I'm his WIFE.