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What is a woman?

There are many thoughts and opinions surrounding peoples ideal woman or idea of the perfect woman. These days, a woman can literally be anything that she wishes. A pilot, a police officer, a soldier, a professor, a doctor, a lawyer, a judge, even run for president! 

WE ARE WOMEN! HEAR US ROAR! 

Its lwoman being liberated that allowed us to make our own money, be left money from a dying relative, vote, play sports, go to college, etc. Now moms can work while dads stay at home! Now woman can even randomly decide to literally be a man.

BUT HAVE WE LOST SOMETHING WITH THIS FREEDOM?

THE CLASSIC IDEAL WOMAN

What ever happen to us ladies knowing how to cook, clean, do laundry, sew, iron, fold, dust, and all that we once knew? We no longer work to get dolled up for our husbands home comings, we no longer try to act dainty or lady like, we speak our minds too freely, we curse, smoke, and all other habits and deeds that are less becoming of the classic lady. 

There once were curves on almost every lass that were highly revered. For ages, hips, breasts, legs, rears, etc, were seen as a woman's beautiful art. Like a painting, once. Now we starve ourselves to the point we are skeletons with skin, and if curves are missing from over stimulated worked out bodies or starved off of us, we can inject or encourage them with enough money. Resulting in an unnatural appearance of underfed mixed with well developed. Starved was never meant to be attractive. No extreme should be. What happened to woman liking to be womanly? What was wrong with us embracing our femininity, sensuality, and overall womanliness that sets us apart from men? Our looks, our sounds, our smells, our touch, our thoughts, our nature, our talents and skills?

At one point woman practiced sewing, embroidery, painting, singing, music, reading, languages, dancing, cooking, and other such hobbies. We spent our days then being treated like a delicate and dainty fragile flower by all men. Yes there were alot of rules in place against our freedoms, no doubt. But these days we have all freedoms and little class. Even the rich are far less classy than they should be! Then we complain that "shivery is dead" and that men treat us different now. Of coarse they do, you wanted to be treated like his equal, act as such, so he is treating you like a fellow MAN. You asked for it, you can't complain!

WHY CAN'T THERE BE A MIDDLE GROUND?!

Shouldn't there be a place in the middle? Where we can cook, clean, sew and sing. Go to dances, dates and get dolled up. A place where we can be dainty as a daisy and treated as such...but still be free liberated STRONG women? Where you are free to earn your way, to vote, to opt out of children, to speak your mind, but not have lost all femininity and class. Not lose all that wonderful stuff that makes a good wife, a happy home, and a happy husband? 

ONE SIZE DOES NOT FIT ALL...

I know that cooking, cleaning, ironing and sewing are not for all women. some of us cannot play the piano, or might be miserable sitting still long enough for embroidery. Some have not the steady hands to paint, the voice to carry a tune, or the feet for dancing. But would it hurt to do something, to try one of them? To act a little bit classic wife mixed with modern edge? Or even the other way around.

I always say... happiness is in the balance. 

This Will Be Short.... Oops.. I meant HUGE

So a pal on a social site was doing differant "male appeal" questions. The most popular of the 3 questions he asked was the 3rd....


DOES SIZE MATTER LADIES???
an almost sweepingly overwelming response from both virgins and non-virgins alike came back with "YES"

MOST ladies said "average or better"
out of about 50 instant replies there might have been one poor girl just trying to be nice that said something along the lines of "not really, only if its all about .... (you know)"

(I'll leave out my personal participation in this, but I'm very well blessed in my marriage so ya, no need to get dirty.) Though I will tell you the responses tickled me to no end.

So this blog might not be the friendliest blog for certian types of folks to read. Proper, older, too young, easily offended, or wrongsiders.

To the 'wrongsiders" as I'll call you. This is modern times, there is plenty of choices of help for various price ranges.

Also, lets face it.... though thats a particullarly fantastic part of a relationship... IT REALLY IS NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART! Treatment of each other is far more important. Esp TO WOMEN.

Women ADORE being pampered. Being treated like a best friend, a lady, and your world. In the long run that IS the MOST important thing.

IMPORTANT TO NOTE, MOST GIRLS DID NOT WANT ANY EXTREME. THAT INCLUDES THE UPPER HANED SIDE. So I guess in the long run, THE MIDDLE ROAD GUYS...WIN


THE OTHER QUESTIONS?

SIMPLIFIED - RUFF N TUFF, OR SENSITIVE?
this one was close. NO women WANTED to say just one. but many when forced did chose SENSITIVE. Though overwelmingly the REAL answer is A MIX OF BOTH. STRONG AND SWEET.

TIGHT JEANS AND TRIMMED BROWS?
Well, being friends closed survey, this one might not have been fair to all styles all people are in to. But it was a pretty overwelming NO for the tight pants. THE BROWS? Most women did NOT like the idea of a uni and were up for trims on that aspect for a man. HOWEVER .... most did not like sagging pants either. Also a mixed bag answer.


AS 1 WOMEN RESPONDED "DON'T YOU KNOW WE ARE WOMEN...WE WANT IT ALL!"





So I guess in the long run, THE MIDDLE OF THE ROAD GUYS...WIN. BALANCE IS THE KEY. LIKE GOLDY LOCKS SAID "THIS ONES JUST RIGHT".....


thats all.

LD

Shut Your Mouth

There was a crude "southern" saying that goes "Opinions are like a*holes, everybody has got one"

Now, excusing that, let me make my point. Everyone has something to say about everything, it does not mean you need to listen. Most people are under the impression that THEIR opinion is in fact the RIGHT one. That they know what they are talking about, that their "experience" in said field, or roadside knowledge, will be fitting and helpful to you and your situation.

NOT TRUE!

Take all opinions with a grain of salt. Do not ever follow advice of an average flawed human being. Take heed, listen, keep it in mind. But leave it at that. 

ALWAYS FORM YOUR OWN OPINION, YOUR OWN CONCLUSION. 

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There are in fact people who inspired this rant. My husband and I get quite interesting responses from others based on our way of handling our marriage. We love each other, and our life together, and neither is unhappy or sees any flaw. However, outsiders opinions vary. Mostly by sex, and who it is they are addressing.

WOMEN will talk to Jacob, and oppose. They do not like him having me be his right hand man/secretary. Handling all bills, paperwork, files, information, and all other icky duties that stress him out. they say he needs to be grown up and independent and handle it himself. Funny to me, I though being married meant being a team and working together for each other and a common goal of happiness, not selfish behavior and self serving independence. 

I find women talking to me, never understand why I go through so much stress and effort for him. "Why are you doing it all, he can do it, he is grown." Acting like I'm being his slave, or he is using me. I think that most women are to worried about liberation, independence, and their own happiness. and to many not worried about their partners happiness. 

MEN talking to Jacob are shocked and jealous, thinking Jacob has it made. Acting like he is spoiled and lucky to find someone who is so concerned with helping him. Complaining, often times, that their spouse or partner would not help them out like that. Even more so if they are single. To them, I am considered "the cool wife". Even with the men talking to me, its the same, "Jacob is a lucky man". 

On the reverse, often times Jacobs "rules" are misunderstood, as are his gifts to me. Outsiders either view him as an overly strict controlling husband, or as a chump for buying me things. 

These misunderstanding are from people only having a few curious pieces of our love puzzle and trying to guess from the few random scattered bits of information they believe they have gathered.  so from there bitter unhappy selfish viewpoints, they often times guess very wrong. 

IT WAS NO SURPRISE TO ME, WHEN I LEARNED SOME OF THE NAY SAYING WOMEN WERE PREVIOUS DIVORCEES. 

With there queenly nagging mouthy attitudes, its not at all strange to learn they disapprove of the way I spoil Jacob. If they approved, I'd think I might be in trouble. Where as the happy wives of strong marriages, as well the husbands, are more inclined to agree "yes, thats exactly how we do it", or "we are the same way". They will usually see our hearts and love in our actions, and see past the outside. More likely to agree with the way we do things, because of seeing why they were done. 

Its no ones business, but I put so much effort into Jacob because I've seen him struggle with stress and unhappiness when he is left to deal with the boring important bs work. Not that it doesn't stress me out as well, but as a couple you should know your strengths, and I handle life stresses as these much better than Jacob. So, since I'm only a house wife, with no children of human origin to care for, why not? I myself am not perfect, I do make mistakes, but Jacob is not quick to criticize since he loathes doing what I'm doing so much. If I was to be working, the more I worked, the more the duties would be split accordingly. 

Its about not only a fair balance, but A HAPPY BALANCE.

You take on what you know you can handle, and that they cannot. Being married works best when you both emphasize each others strengths, and make up for each others weaknesses. Not the other way around. 

IN MY MIND  - the husband is solely responsible 100% for the wife's happiness and care.

and the wife is solely responsible 100% for the husbands happiness and care. 

If you are both using all your power to look after each others happiness, then both are being properly fulfilled and taken care of. And the love and care from another is far more pure than the love of yourself. 

So, while I do not pretend to know everything, and this is merely my opinion and meant to be taken equally with a grain of salt, I still feel the need to clear up my thoughts on the matter. 

LISTEN TO YOUR HEART.

XOXO

LD