The Ageing Stereotype

When your looking forward in life, the street is fogged and you think what you want of the approaching journey. When the road is behind you, you know every pebble n' pot hole. You just walked it and that knowledge helps you to realize what you could not before....what lies ahead.

Life is basically like school. We are here to learn. Though many are failing, and few are passing, some of us are slow starters. But doesn't it seem we , in our "senior" years, all end up about the same? With various body pains, memory loss, and easily irritated by almost everyone younger than us?

Why do we grow out of things?  Why is it after so long, we start to loose interest in things that many years ago we found so captivating?

I've already noticed that I cannot handle being around noise at all anymore. Music I use to like I find more irritating now, or silly and juvenile. I find myself asking questions like "Why don't they just settle down and get married?" or "Whats wrong with teenagers today?". Complaining about my knees, my back, its to hot, its to cold, "This was cheaper when I was younger!" is a classic I find spewing from my lips too often.

But not everything has to be set in stone. You don't have to except all forms of the ageing stereotype. You can be your own person. I personally hate the news, the weather, and never plan on cutting my hair above my chin. AND NO POODLE PERMS FOR ME!

 

I'm turning thirty, and still shop in Juniors. I still love Mario, cartoons, coloring books, kids foods, defying the rules (just not big ones), running around outside barefoot, tickle fights with Jacob, stuffed toys, and list list goes on.

You can't avoid picking up a few aging stereotypes along the way, but you can avoid giving up who you really are to the lifestyle as a whole. No matter how old you get, you should never let people, places, circumstances or even LIFE itself dictate WHO YOU ARE.

xoxo - LD

The Balance

Today I was thinking about how generally happy and content my husband and I are with our life. Then I further thought about this "happiness". What are the inner working gears that put happy into motion anyway?

Do we deserve to be happy? Must we earn happiness? Is it governed or rationed?

I am truly a believer in karma. Call it what you will. I also believe in what I refer to as "bad juju". A term originating from voodoo, that I use a little looser than it was perhaps intended. (As well, the terms, "chi", and "Ora". No, I'm not a new age chick, I simply thieved a few terms. )

What is karma? The term basically means "what goes around comes around".

dictionary.com

kar·ma   /ˈkɑrmə/ [kahr-muh]

1. Hinduism, Buddhism . action, seen as bringing upon oneself inevitable results, good or bad, either in this life or in a reincarnation: in hinduism one of the means of reaching Brahman.

2. Theosophy . the cosmic principle according to which each person is rewarded or punished in one incarnation according to that person's deeds in the previous incarnation.

3. fate; destiny.

So, does this mean if we try really hard to be only good, that in turn only good will happen in our lives? I personally think not. In order for ones true character to show, it must be pushed. I kinda feel like this is done to really show the world your true intentions, thoughts, heart, mind, and etc. Also, I do think that there is a certain level of "balance" that is to be maintained.

Even in tragedy, I think that there was something meant to be taken from that experience. Whether or not the person or surrounding on lookers actually absorb it, that is left to them. Its like a test. A video game. We are all playing the same game, but some people see the hidden doors or secret coins dangling amongst a slue of villains and obstacles. Always laying just beyond what we think our reach is. Others could not see the coin if it fell right on their heads.

I think often, "Why does that person get (great thing here)? They are an awful person!" I wonder if it is to see what it is that they will do with it. Not so much a reward, as further testing that persons character. Or sometimes, to rub salt in the wound. Give them candy then take it away kinda thing.

Either way, happiness is more a cloud i think. You fall through it, you cannot rest upon it, stand in it, or live there. You pass through it while falling through the sky, or life. Sometimes you will end up falling through a rain cloud. No matter how bad it seems, it always passes. The question though is, how are the clouds ending up in your path to begin with, and what can you do to get more happy clouds and less dark ones? Well, while I don't think you can ever ensure getting rid of dark clouds. I do believe that keeping ones "karma" in check can help you to add a few more happy ones on your way down.

On a side note: If we literally were physically "falling" through life, downwards, I think that the clouds we fell through would be the least of our worries.

xoxo

LD