What is wrong with being who you really are? NOTHING! Not as long as you don't let the good of who you are get strong armed by the bad parts. Always maintain a 60/40 or better ratio.
Lying through your personality is still lying. Not to say "editing" or reinventing yourself is not ok. Just faking it is. There is about 20% concentrated version in your you thats really the essence of who you are. That part should be the icing on your you cake. Not barried under it or left packaged up. Its the yummy fluffy part that lets ppl taste your unique flavor. Without it, your a drone.
Be kind. Be honest. Be humble. Be thankful. Those are things we can all be. add ons, that everyone comes equipped with. They need to be used. But, never let etiquette overwhelm the true you. Nor anger, resentment, bitterness, jealousy, prejudice, etc. They turn you into a poisonous human being. Who eventually takes takes takes things from everyone. Even if its just sucking the happy positive calm energy from the room, you took it away from others.
LEARN TO RELAX, STOP THINKING SO MUCH!
DON'T WORRY - BEE HAPPY!
Thats the first step to the real you leaking out the cracks of your stressful protective outer shell. Then you will shine like the star we are truly are deep down. We are all great, fantastic, slpendiforus ppl in our own way.
It might take time to change. I hobby in ppl counseling and playing psychiatrist to ppl i'm close to. I can tell you not everyone learns the right habits, social rules, or ideals growing up. Some ppl need work. I know of one with great anger, resentment, and stress built up. Taught somewhere along the lines to hold grudges and be vindictive. And that person is slowly learning to control the anger they have harbored for decades. With time the rest will slowly fall into place. Time, and pure unselfish humble love, heals all wounds.
SAY YOUR SORRY, ADMIT YOUR WRONG, STOP WHINING AND PLAYING THE VICTIM. THESE ARE NOT ATTRACTIVE TRAITS! PRIDE AND EGO CAN WRECK A PERSONALITY!
IT WON'T KILL YOU TO BE WRONG! ITS CLEANSING TO OCCASIONALLY ADMIT YOUR HUMAN. YOU MAKE MISTAKES, WE ALL DO, EVERYONE KNOWS IT WHETHER OR NOT YOU ADMIT IT. So, instead of looking like a jackass, just say I'm sorry, truly, mean it, and 90% of the time you will be forgiven. And its very admirable too.
NEXT : SEE THE WORLD AROUND YOU. yup thats right, your not the only one in the world, there are others. (DARN IT!) And since your not really a deity, maybe you should focus on others once in awhile. Stop always talking about yourself, your life, your skills, how much others think you rock (bragging through others is still bragging. its still talking about yourself, just sneakier! ever seen the movie Emma? ya your totally Mrs. Elton! & sucks to be you!), stop talking about how the world does you wrong or one upping everyones story with your own. EXPERIMENT: TRY GOING A FULL DAY WITHOUT REFERRING TO YOURSELF! too hard? Try an hour. If you cant do that... YOU GOT ISSUES!
SEEING OTHERS CAN BE SEEING THE BEAUTY IN THE WORLD. DONT MISS OUT ON THAT! Its like your own channel. Your own live in movie. Step out INTO THE WORLD OUTSIDE YOURSELF and enjoy it!
WHINING, WANTING, WORRYING. That stuff? IT SUCKS! My advice? TRY TO DO LESS OF IT.
Remember to enjoy things within this world, this lifetime. so many things to try, to explore, and to learn!
but most importantly, never force yourself to far to do something outside your true character. Ppl can smell out fake a mile away. (peewwwy, it stinky)
LOVE LIFE, LOVE YOU! YOUR THE ONLY YOU YOU GOT!